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No worries, no hurries, and no wrong notes

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I gave a presentation earlier this week for the Senior Resources Association of North County on the benefits of music therapy, interacting with older adults through music, and caring for the caregiver with music. ALL THREE topics covered in 30 minutes. Wow. Needless to say, we could have stretched the presentation out into a 4-day intensive training course. But I worked within the parameters this time.

After an early morning nosh, meet, and mingle, I felt deeply touched by every member’s caring and compassion for services for seniors. This is no run-of-the-mill morning networking group. This group has members of many different backgrounds, religions, and political standpoints. But one thing brings them together: Passion for high quality senior care. Beautiful!

I started the presentation by asking how many people took piano lessons when they were growing up. About 14 people raised their hands. When I asked how many people play the piano to this day, TWO people kept their hands raised. As a classically trained pianist with my undergraduate degree in classical piano performance, I felt compelled to point out that while there are 88 keys on the piano, 87 of them are usually the “wrong” key!

Oftentimes in our early musical education, we learn that making music is difficult, unpleasant, and not fun. How many of us are familiar with a hand slap by a ruler? How many of us have been asked to lip-sync in the choir? How many of us have been made fun of by friends or family for an unplugged, spontaneous moment of free musical expression? Probably most, if not all of us have been exposed to negativity for making music at some point in our lives.

The great thing about drumming is that it is accessible, easy, primal, and there are NO WRONG NOTES! After drumming in a group, you can consider any and all negative associations with making music DEBUNKED! The research shows that drumming can help reduce stress, enhances mood, reduces burnout… It even increases our natural cancer killing cells and enhances our immune system!

In order to demonstrate the immediate effects of drumming to this group, I passed out drums to everyone. I held up my guitar and said “One hit, everybody. One hit. On your mark, get set, GO.” “On your mark, get set, GO.” “On your mark, get set, … One for the money, Two for the show…” We had already set up the beat for Elvis’s Blue Suede Shoes, so we went along with that tune. Since this tune is a standard 12-bar blues form, I provided the rhythmic and chordal framework with my guitar and voice for each table to play a solo chorus on their drums. It was a riot! People were laughing and playing and dancing and expressing – all out loud and uninhibited. I also had the perfect opportunity to point out the difference between performing and music therapy. In performance, the focus is on the performer. In therapy, the focus is on the participant(s) or clients. While we passed the rhythm from table to table, it was clear and apparent that the focus was on the participants – not me as the facilitator!

At the end, we were all concerned that the last table to play a solo might have had an anger management problem, based upon their extraordinary vigor in playing. However, after processing with them later, they reassured the group that they were passionately expressing joyful, positive energy only. Abundant laughs, eye contact, dancing, socialization, and pure fun throughout the entire presentation!

Music Makes Sense provides a few other great ideas for making music a fulfilling experience. Also, check out Arthur Hull and Christine Stevens, just to name a couple of my drum circle mentors.

Do you have any more ideas or experiences to share? I’d love to hear them! And as always, book me for a presentation for YOUR group!

Be well, feel good, make MUSIC!

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A Rhythm Ritual for the New Year

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Drum Circle Participants (used with permission)

It might have been the celebration to surpass all other celebrations when we rang in the New Year with a GONG at my New Year’s Eve party. Today surprised me however, we celebrated New Years in a deep, meaningful way at La Costa Glen, an independent living retirement community. These community residents are inspiring! The drum class participants are full of life, always open to learning new things, and always teaching me new things. This is a very special community. Authenticity and being present with the raw human experience both resonate with this group.

So, needless to say in celebrating the New Year, there was excitement, there was fervor, but most importantly, there was intention.  We started the session with egg shakers.

You might be surprised to find out that the egg shaker possesses deep, strong, true power when infused with one’s most personal wishes and genuine intentions for the New Year. We all took a turn at shaking out our intentions. These included certain states of mind, people to attract into our lives, and resolutions. We did not share our intention verbally. We only played the rhythm of our intention. Each person took a turn, played his/her rhythm out loud for the group, the group joined in with that individual’s rhythm for validation and acknowledgment. And then we moved on to the next person in the circle.

Once we had all shared our New Years rhythm on the egg shakers, we spread out a big white canopy sheet. Everyone grabbed an edge of the soft cloth. When we were ready, we threw our egg shakers into the canopy, sang Auld Lang Syne, then swooped our shakers as high as possible into the sky! Our intentions had exploded into the cosmos.

Then we drummed. Thanks to Remo, Inc., we were equipped with plenty of drums for a grand New Year’s rhythm ritual. We used a drum call, we soloed, we shaped and sculpted out our lives ~ our new lives of 2010 ~ onto our drums. Yes, these inspiring, vibrant octogenarians begin new, rich lives in the new year! We sang together while resting our drum-beating hands in between grooves, and the group even taught me a “new” song: It’s a Sin to Tell a Lie.

We ended with a special celebratory circle. One by one, we shared our intention verbally in front of the group, then we rumbled them in for the New Year. Some personal intentions (or as I like to refer to them “words from the wise”) included:

Experience each moment
No matter what happens live contentedly
Feel happiness
Come to drumming class every time
Attract positive people into life
Nurture good relations with family members

At the end, we counted down New Years on the drums with BIG BEATS
10… 9… 8… 7… 6… 5… 4… 3… 2… 1  Happy New Year!

Afterwards, one gentleman approached me and with a look of sincerity, he said “You know, Kat, you bring so much joy to so many people. You really do.” I was humbled and touched. Music is powerful.

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